Understanding Plaxico

I usually preempt any controversial arguments with a clarifying statement. This note will not be an exception:

I am not a fan of Plaxico Burress. I do not like the New York Giants. I feel that SOUND laws should be respected and obeyed and that status, money, and power should never allow a person to be considered above the law. I feel that those of you who have been quick to call him a "thug", "typical athlete", or my favorite, "if you feel you need a gun, you shouldn't go there" are a little misguided. (Side note: I believe that Plaxico Burress should not have been charged, prosecuted, and convicted of a felony but that is not my argument today. If you want to argue gun laws and/or gun control, please wait, that opportunity will come soon).

Should this teen be charged?

We do STUPID things as teenagers. Most of us, anyway. A lot of times it's because as teenagers, we didn't fully respect the fact that we are not invincible, that we (and our friends) don't always know best, and that are consequences to our actions. One example of this played out with deadly consequence in Jacksonville this summer.

Here are the facts to this situation:

• In June, nine teens (ranging in age from 15-17) decided to skip their final day of class and head to the beach
• One of the teens, 16, borrowed the car from her parents but became sick so she asked her 15 year old boyfriend to drive them instead
• In Florida, even with a learner's permit, there must be a 21 year old in the passenger seat of the vehicle
• At the time of the accident, he was driving 72 in a 65 mph zone
• Possibly due to the weight in the vehicle (carrying NINE passengers in a FIVE passenger SUV) one of the tires blew out and the SUV rolled over several times

For the uncommited

One of my friend's status read, "I could sing about love loss..but what if there's no love to lose?" It seems she's gotten to the point that she's numb to relationships or worse... to the thought of love. I found this and thought I'd share with all of you.

" For your life to change you must change" - Jim Rohn

What does a commitment phobic have to do to change?

1. He/she has to admit he/she has a problem.
2. He/she has to take responsibility for his/her behaviors toward men/women – that he leads them on and he behaves in an uncaring and cruel way.

Love... A Choice or a Feeling?

Several friends and I were having the FB discussion a few months ago about this topic. The conversation was in depth and the subject has yet to leave my mind.

I believe that love and being in love is a choice... not a feeling.

One author wrote, "I have bound myself for life; I have made my choice. From now on my aim will not be to choose a woman who will please me, but to please the woman I have chosen."

The bad thing about being human is that we believe in many things that we cannot feel, touch, taste, or smell... yet we have faith they exist. Love is one of those things. Now, I'm not saying love doesn't exist, I CHOOSE to believe that love is more of a state of mind, than a matter of the heart.

Top 10 Uncomfortable Facebook/MySpace moments

Social networking sites are wonderful. It gives you a chance to reconnect with old friends and keep up to date with current events involving loved ones.

It also gives you the opportunity to screw up your life (like hitting "reply all" to the e-mail that included your off-color remarks about your boss)! So I came up with my Top 10 potentially uncomfortable moments in the worlds of Facebook/MySpace. Scroll down slowly so you don't get ahead too quickly. Enjoy!

10. You just found out your mom deleted you as a friend.


9. While looking over your best friend’s "friends" list, you notice that most of them are half-naked guys… the problem is, your best friend is a dude.


8. You requested your boyfriend as a friend two weeks ago... and he still hasn’t accepted you.


7. Your girlfriend just changed her status from "in a relationship" to "single"… now you have to rush home to see if the locks are changed since you two live together.


6. Your girlfriend just added new pictures of her recent trip to Miami… you didn’t know anything about a trip to Miami… and who took the picture?


5. Your mom has a status update that says what her favorite sex position is...


4. ...your 13 year old daughter took the same quiz and the answer was every position is her favorite...


3. ...your pastor’s result was missionary!


2. Somebody fought you on Sorority Life today... it’s your boyfriend.


1. Your girlfriend has 973 "friends"... and 815 are guys... she went to an all-girl high school and college... not saying something's up... but if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck...

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Be sure to tip your server.

CDA2