Black Men, White Women

There have been several articles discussing how some blacks have been turned off by the Tiger Woods' situation because he cheated on his wife with white women (click for one of the HERE articles).  Are we STILL dealing with this issue of inferiority in 2009?  This tends to be a very sore subject for blacks (especially black women).  For years they were made to believe that having darker skin made them less attractive than their fairer counterparts.  That having curly/crinkly hair was unappealing.  No one can deny that sort of mental abuse has and continues to happen in our society.  But, if a man wants to date exclusively outside of his race, that's his preference, not yours, and it deserves little criticism from you (unless you are married to him, of course).  If one chooses to be upset with Tiger it should be because he cheated in the first place.  Whether she was white, hispanic, or a female goat is irrelevant.

It is also very unfortunate that some would view the race of a man's spouse as a factor when it comes to supporting him.  "The color of one's companion has long been a major measure of "blackness" — which is a big reason why the biracial (then presidential candidate) Barack Obama was able to fend off early questions about his black authenticity.  "Had Barack had a white wife, I would have thought twice about voting for him," Johnson Cooper said."

Since I've heard this foolishness from many others around the time of the election, it's not just Mr. Cooper's ignorance on display here.  Any person that would have voted against Barack Obama because he married a Sarah Palin or a Hillary Clinton (in other words, a white woman) is the real racist.

Tell me what you think. Are critics like Tom Joyner (and others) okay for having the thoughts they do on the subject? Or are they actually encouraging segregation and increasing our racial divide with their beliefs on this matter?


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Whose Life Would You Save?

The story, which can be found by clicking HERE, describes how after his wife's car submerged into water, a man was unable to save his son without risking his life AND the life of his wife, so he made the decision to save her instead (The UK Times' headline is VERY misleading, but I digress).

The story reminded me of a report I read while in college.  The report discussed the differences in three cultures: Caucasians, Asians, and blacks (it did not differentiate between Korean, Chinese, Japanese, etc.).  The writers conducted a survey which gave the respondents the following scenario:

Imagine that your home home caught fire this evening.  Inside your home are your mother (or father), spouse, and one child.  Imagine that they are all unable to save themselves and time permitted you to be able to save just one life, whose life would you choose?  The researchers found it interesting that the overwhelmingly majority of the answers were split down racial lines.  Caucasians chose their spouse, Asians chose their parent, and blacks chose their child (the respondents did not suggest why they chose the individual they did and you can draw your own conclusions from that).


No one would have want to see ANY of their family members suffer.  Heck, most people ignore the thought of death so much they won't buy life insurance or set up a will or a trust ("Because if I don't think about it, it won't happen to me.")!

But let me ask you: If you were to ever face a gut wrenching scenario such as this, whose life would you spare?



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For the uncommited

One of my friend's status read, "I could sing about love loss..but what if there's no love to lose?" It seems she's gotten to the point that she's numb to relationships or worse... to the thought of love. I found this and thought I'd share with all of you.

" For your life to change you must change" - Jim Rohn

What does a commitment phobic have to do to change?

1. He/she has to admit he/she has a problem.
2. He/she has to take responsibility for his/her behaviors toward men/women – that he leads them on and he behaves in an uncaring and cruel way.

Love... A Choice or a Feeling?

Several friends and I were having the FB discussion a few months ago about this topic. The conversation was in depth and the subject has yet to leave my mind.

I believe that love and being in love is a choice... not a feeling.

One author wrote, "I have bound myself for life; I have made my choice. From now on my aim will not be to choose a woman who will please me, but to please the woman I have chosen."

The bad thing about being human is that we believe in many things that we cannot feel, touch, taste, or smell... yet we have faith they exist. Love is one of those things. Now, I'm not saying love doesn't exist, I CHOOSE to believe that love is more of a state of mind, than a matter of the heart.