For the uncommited

One of my friend's status read, "I could sing about love loss..but what if there's no love to lose?" It seems she's gotten to the point that she's numb to relationships or worse... to the thought of love. I found this and thought I'd share with all of you.

" For your life to change you must change" - Jim Rohn

What does a commitment phobic have to do to change?

1. He/she has to admit he/she has a problem.
2. He/she has to take responsibility for his/her behaviors toward men/women – that he leads them on and he behaves in an uncaring and cruel way.

3. He/she has to want to change.
4. He/she has to be prepared to seek help.
5. He/she has to look deep within to work out when and how his claustrophobic/commitment phobic symptoms started.
6. He/she will require coaching or cognitive behavioural therapy to change his negative, irrational thought patterns about love, commitment and relationships. He/she will also need to explore some of the faster healing therapies to heal, grow and change.
7. He/she needs some time out from relationships to reflect on his thinking patterns and behaviors.
8. He/she must develop his emotional and spiritual intelligence and become more aware. Personal and spiritual development courses raise awareness and consciousness and prevent us from sabotaging relationships. (Spiritual development is not about religion).
9. If he/she doesn’t want to change his behaviours he/she has to be honest and upfront to women/men when he/she first meets them. He/she must tell them he/she does not want a committed relationship, that he/she is only interested in a casual liaison with space and freedom and not to expect any more. Then it is up to the woman/man to decide whether she/he wishes to spend time with him on those terms.

“ Love and fear cannot exist in the same space” - Author unknown

"Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live" - Norman Cousins

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourslef that you have built against it "- Rumi

WE MUST ALL REMEMBER THAT IN THE END - LOVE IS ALL THERE IS!

It is love that feeds how heart and our soul and makes us feel whole.
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Points number one and seven are the two I feel most people don't adhere to. I'll give her credit: she admitted she's at fault and needs help. As far as the other points? To be continued...

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